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Beware of those sneaky home working assumptions

Home workers - too much time aloneA home working life can be a life spent largely in the confines of one’s own head, whether at home or travelling to meetings. I recently met someone at a networking event and we were discussing the drawbacks of this much solitude. He said he used to spend hours alone every day in his car and although an introvert by nature, in the end he grew to hate his own company.

I find that a big disadvantage of spending time alone is the danger of losing perspective. The lack of exposure to other people’s ideas means my own thoughts and opinions get rather too well reinforced. For example, I remember being very motivated by Harvey Mackay’s book Dig Your Well Before You’re Thirsty and particularly struck by his exhortation not to ‘say no for the other guy’. In other words, never assume you can’t ask somebody something, don’t talk yourself out of a possibility by assuming they will say no.

I took this on board for a while but over the months I’ve slipped back into believing my own assumptions. Ever since my book about working from home was published two years ago, I’ve been meaning to ask a few people to put a review on Amazon for me. I know they like and recommend the book, they’ve said so, but somehow the moment passed and it seemed awkward to do it so long afterwards. I kept putting it off, saying no for the other guy, until my publisher nagged me about it a couple of weeks ago.

It’s weird what you’ll keep putting off until someone else asks you to do it, isn’t it? I sent a couple of emails and immediately got a cheery reply – ‘Of course I’ll post a review, loved the book etc etc.’ And the review appeared a few minutes later. I haven’t heard from the other recipient, but maybe they’re just busy. They either will, or they won’t, but at least now there’s an equal chance they will!

Assumptions – don’t you just hate the way they come crawling up without you even noticing, until they’ve taken up full-time residence and it needs a big push to get rid of ’em?

What assumptions have you conquered to become a more effective home worker?

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2 Comments on "Beware of those sneaky home working assumptions"

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  1. Bobby Litt says:

    Dream IT Believe IT Achieve IT!

    Oh, Yes! I am certainly a firmly believer of ‘IF YOU DON’T ASK…YOU DON’T GET’ mentality. And this is what success or failure whether online or offline comes down to in the end…MINDSET!!!

    ‘United We Stand…Together We Expand’

    • judy says:

      Yes, and for those of us who were brought up with a less than abundant mindset (ie lots!) it means constant vigilance as it’s so easy to slip back into limiting yourself.